You are absolutely right about this here, James: words mean nothing, actions say everything.

I was struggling with the idea as I wrote the piece and the days thereafter.

It’s easy to write pretty words but then it’s hard to put them into practice.

I had a couple of bad weeks recently in which I felt wronged by people close to me. The reality is that at times it has been difficult for me to forgive. The problem, in my personal experience, is that because I cannot act on my anger (I feel that my natural response would be violence) then I hold it and it turns into depression. But that is me.

I feel it would be wrong to tell others how to react to stressors. I feel we are all doing the best we can under our circumstances.

For me is difficult to understand men who beat up their partners. I think it’s very difficult for all us to communicate and express our ideas openly. Then this toxic idea of seeing one another as property. But that probably is a subject other than forgiveness, right?

I hope we transform in a society that is able to communicate properly without having to resort to violence. Then maybe the injuries we sustain will make it easier to understand one another and stop the cycle of violence.

Thank you for discussing this with me, James. I appreciate you.

Pablo